Our children today aren’t getting enough practice in the art of conversation – and it is an art! The ability to listen to what others have to say, respond in a way that makes them feel you were interested, and expressing yourself articulately and even, amusingly don’t come easily to most people. The best way to give our children these skills is to give them the opportunity to practise. Ask them hypothetical questions like ‘what would you do if you had a million dollars?’ or ‘what rules will you make when you are a mum?’ (my kids love that one!). A person who is a good conversationalist has a skill which will be of great benefit to them throughout their life.
We are exposed to music from the day we are conceived. We can feel and hear it in the womb. Many of us on our day of birth can hear our Mother singing, “Rock-a-bye-baby.” That turns to “Happy Birthday” every single year after that. Everyone has certain songs that invoke strong memories from the past. How about that special wedding song?
Why should we be? Few of us have had any training in emotional intelligence or emotional management, and many of us have likely had poor role models of the same.
So the best way to deal with a defiant child is to undergo behavioral therapies. This will in time, solve your child’s problem and yours as well. It will generally focus on the child’s problematic thoughts/thinking or behaviors that may get rewarded (accidentally) within their environment.
In your personal life, if you are more social, you can have a large variety of friends. This can further help your social skills because each person that you socialize with has different interests and things that they like to do. You can effectively learn different cultural things from different kinds of friends and acquaintances.
Defer to customers, clients and prospects. They are the people who keep you in business. When you defer to others you show respect. Deference is an act of high regard and respect. Put another person’s interests first is part of good client/customer service.
If you have a parrot with behavior problems do give up. If you don’t, certainly don’t let it develop any. With effort, time, patience and love those unwanted behaviors can be modified or even eliminated. Train your parrot. Socialize your parrot. It is the kindest thing you will ever do for it. Don’t you think he deserves it?